How to Write Your Own Obituary — And Why It’s Surprisingly Healing!
At first, the idea of writing your own obituary might feel a bit uncomfortable — maybe even morbid. But for many, it becomes one of the most healing, empowering, and meaningful things they ever do.
It’s not just a summary of dates, places, and events. It’s your story, told in your own words — a reflection of your values, your journey, and the legacy you want to leave behind.
Here’s why it matters more than you might realize — and how to begin.
What to Include in a Self-Written Obituary
Think of your obituary as a final love letter, a message that celebrates the life you’ve lived and honors the people who mattered most to you. It doesn’t need to be formal or elaborate — just honest, meaningful, and true to you.
Consider including:
Your full name (including maiden name, nicknames, or names you were known by)
Date and place of birth
Significant milestones — marriage, family, education, military service, career, community involvement
Personal beliefs, values, or spiritual life — what anchored you, gave you hope, or guided your decisions
Favorite quotes, scriptures, poems, or personal mottos
A message of gratitude or blessing to the people you love
How you wish to be remembered — in your own words
There’s no wrong way to do this. Some choose to keep it light or even humorous. Others choose to be reflective, sentimental, or spiritual. What matters most is that it feels authentic to you.
Writing Tips: Tone, Legacy, and Reflection
Speak from the heart. Write the way you speak. Let it be personal, not perfect.
Center it on what truly mattered. Share how your values, beliefs, or faith shaped your journey.
Include something lasting. Whether it’s a meaningful quote, a guiding scripture, or a family saying, these words can become part of the legacy you leave behind.
Add a blessing or message. Offer encouragement, gratitude, or hope for your family — something they can hold on to, especially in difficult times.
How This Helps Your Loved Ones
Writing your own obituary is one of the most thoughtful gifts you can give. In the midst of grief, families often feel overwhelmed trying to capture a loved one’s life in words.
By preparing this in advance, you relieve your loved ones from the pressure of guessing what you would have wanted to say. Instead, they’ll hear your story directly from you — your voice, your words, your heart.
This simple act becomes a source of peace, healing, and even joy. Families often share that reading the obituary written by their loved one turned a stressful task into a meaningful moment of reflection, laughter, tears, and connection — a final conversation that continues to comfort them long after.
How Faithful Finish Legacy Group Supports You
At Faithful Finish Legacy Group, we know this process can feel big — but you don’t have to do it alone. Our role is to walk alongside you, helping you capture your story with grace, clarity, and dignity.
We offer gentle, guided support, including:
A personalized questionnaire to help you gather meaningful memories and milestones
Reflection prompts designed to capture your values, story, and life lessons
Suggestions for blessings, affirmations, or spiritual reflections — if desired
Editing and formatting support so your final version feels just right — professional, polished, but still deeply personal
The process is private, encouraging, and entirely on your terms — never rushed or intimidating. Whether it’s part of your Final Wishes Binder or simply something you want to complete for peace of mind, we’re here to support you every step of the way.
Ready to Craft Your Story on Your Own Terms?
Writing your own obituary is a profound way to honor your life, your values, and your love for the people who matter most. It’s not just a document — it’s a gift of clarity, comfort, and legacy.
When you’re ready, we’ll help you write an obituary that reflects who you are, what you stand for, and the story you want remembered.